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BOOK - THE GASLIGHTING EFFECT

Take a Revealing Look Inside


 At what the Narcissist tries to hide  

the heart of an empath

THE HEART AND SOUL OF AN EMPATH


  Is it any wonder she had so much difficulty growing up ?


is it any wonder she was so hard to understand?


 Is it any wonder she felt different from everyone else?


 Is it any Wonder her love felt more intense than other people?


 Is it any Wonder her soul has been uniquely defined?


 None of these things are left to wonder inside the heart and soul of an empath  ...

Womanace to society, episode 67

Who I Am

A little bit about me ...

 

Right from birth it was a struggle... My mom was having a fling after ending an abusive marriage with her husband when I came along. My mother was 15 years older than my biological father and clearly my father was only up for good times as he began sexually molesting my older sister (11 years older than me). When my mom found out she left, moved to another province within Canada and remarried a man who would become my step father. My mother abused me throughout my childhood and I developed a deeply rooted anger, yet a strong, vital connection to humanity and love of all things, along with  sensitivities and an innocence that would never go away.


After many years of quarreling with my mother, I demanded to know who my real father was. In no time at all I was sent to live with him, his new wife and two children, my half sister and brother. This turned out to be a horrid year and a half to come. Eventually I was denied food, was confined to the house and was only able to bath once a week. My father introduced me to porno as he sat me down on the couch, while playing a very detailed video of a man licking a woman's vagina. In disgust, I ran up to my room and from here the sexual abuse would kick in. When I would get in trouble from a step mother who despised my very presence, my father would enter my room and while spanking me would insert his fingers into my vagina with wicked force. I begged and pleaded with my mother to allow me to return back to the only home and friends I had even known and she rejected me. After incredible persistence, she finally agreed to have me return home. Only this would be anything but joyous, as my return home would prove to be devastating.


A week before my 15th birthday, was a day that will be etched in my mind for eternity. I was on the upper floor watching a movie about killer bees, when my mom and step father returned home from a social night out with friends. I immediately went down to the basement (my room) closed the lights and crawled into bed. My mom entered my  room, turned on the light and was crying. She sat on the edge of my bed sobbing uncontrollably. I asked her if she was alright and she mentioned her and my step father had a fight. She wouldn't talk any further of it, held me tight and told me she loved me and to be good,kind and to respect myself and most of all to be happy. She kissed me and left my room. That night before I went to sleep I made a decision that when I would wake up the next morning the first things I was going to do was tell my mom how much I loved her and try to make our relationship better. I could feel my mother's pain and I was feeling it too and began to ache deep in my heart. My 15th birthday was only a week away and I smiled as I closed my eyes to sleep.


The next morning *I woke to my step father and two police officers standing outside my bedroom door. My mom was dead, she committed suicide and while in shock the police were attempting to ask me questions of the medication my mother would take. Only a few months passed and my step father threw me out of the house and on to  the street with a box of clothes and I was made to survive. Out of that I grew deep empathy and love for Humanity I was always very naive and gullible and somewhat of a pushover had a difficult time saying no very difficult time expressing myself I was always in tune with everything around me. I could feel things that no one else could feel I could see things that no one else could see I knew that there was something different about me. sometimes frightening sometimes astonishing even to me the abilities that I possessed where foreign but yet fascinating. What I was able to see and what I was able to do was incredible it was like a gift of some kind but yet I didn't know what it was a gift and a curse at the same time. I was always picked on ridiculed centered out until I became a teenager and popular.


Through my abusive cycle I'd always found myself wondering why? Why is this man's behavior this way? Why is it so backwards? Why is he doing all of these strange things and copying the same pattern of behavior over and over again? Well then in 2007 I began researching after the narcissist arrest. I had finally some time and I was able to start to understand but never fully.


So then on a Christmas night 2013 he tried to take my life and had control over my twin daughters and a new form of Hell being for me. My own children were calling me and whore, low-life, piece of shit, cunt, slut and so on. I was being attacked over social media by strangers and my own children. I started understanding as the whole picture began assembling itself with  vivid clarity - parent alienation, abuse by proxy, triangulation, flying monkeys, smear campaigns, slander and so so much more.


My natural gift of Clairvoyance and I'm able to see things seems to be sharpening in it's focus. At this point  I begin researching and comparing my experiences with thousands of other victims on a social media platform as I begin the Assembly of writing my book.


I had to take my own experiences and see that they were the same and learning through this obviously developed a deep understanding that all narcissists behave the same way because they all have narcissistic personality disorder. And those inflicted with narcissistic personality disorder all have the same display of Behavioral traits.


 So now where I'm at. I'm an activist and I am a narcissist whisper. I can see every single thing about them even better than they can see themselves. Although I don't fly on psychological terms and confusing Mind Games I am an empath therefore I deliver it straight I deliver it as it really is. Because there's nothing that trumps a narcissist like an educated empath because the intuitive nature and Clairvoyance  that an empath possesses is something a narcissist would never be able to understand because they are unable to experience this type of connection to the universe, if you will.


The more hate I would receive the deeper my empathy and richer my love for humanity. I was always very naive and gullible and some of the pushover. I always had a  difficult time saying no and sometimes a rather  difficult time expressing myself but seeing other people's souls was something that just happened with me. I could see the falseness in people. I could always see deeper, straight into what they were trying to hide from the world and in most cases, trying to hide from themselves. I was able to get into people's psyche, to the point that I was attacked when I hit to deep. I could feel things with an intensity no one else was experiencing.



 I could feel things that no one else could feel like could see things that no one else could see I knew that there was something different about me. I could see conversations before they would happen. I could see events in history take place before they would happen. I had a unique ability, a connection to the universe but found it to be more overwhelming than of benefit to my life. I can feel people's energy with vivid clarity and I can see deep into their soul. I can see all they are hiding. I can see their truth. I can see them. The person they are trying to hide from the world. I now know I can read soul's. It isn't a figment of my imagination, or a childhood illusion. This is real and is happening inside of me. I do have this ability and am just learning more about it.


Sometimes frightening sometimes astonishing even to me abilities that I possessed where foreign but yet fascinating. What I was able to see and what I was able to do was incredible it was like a gift of some kind of yet I didn't know what it was a gift in a curse at the same time. I was always picked on ridiculed Center. Until I became teenager and popular

Through my abusive cycle I'd always found myself wondering why? Why is this man's behavior this way? Why is it so backwards? Why is he doing all of these strange things and copying the same pattern of behavior over and over again? Will then in 2007 I began researching after the narcissist arrest. I had finally sometime no was able to start to understand but never fully.


So then want a Christmas night 2013 he tried to take my life and had control over my twin daughters and new form of help again for me. My own children were calling me on a horse s*** c*** low life piece of s***. I was being attacked over social media by strangers and my own children. I started understanding what parent alien nation and abuse by proxy and triangle a shin and all kinds of other things that I begin full line researching.


God is filling me with incredible insight as I begin researching and comparing my experiences with thousands of other victims on a social media platform as I begin the assembly of writing my book.


I started to realize that my experiences were identical to every other survivor and victim of narcissistic abuse. This led to a deeper understanding that all narcissist behave the same way because they all have the same  narcissistic personality disorder. People with this disorder display identical behavior patterns because at the core of every narcissist is the absolute lack of empathy.


So as time progressed I began receiving greater insight and each time I would I quickly tweeted what I was receiving. More and more revelations and insight began to flow as I continued to tweet. Through years and years of experience in dealing with one narcissist upon another, combined with my natural insight and the direction of God I have been able to help so many people.  I started receiving private messages from people expressing their thanks because of something I tweeted that has helped that validate that they aren't going crazy and what is happening to them is really a thing ... it is called narcissistic abuse. It is crazy, it is surreal and even those who have gone through it still have a hard time explaining it, it is really that bazaar.


I am in activist and I am a narcissist Whisperer. I can see every single thing about them even better than they can see themselves. Although I don't fly on psychological terms and confusing mind games.I am in an empath and I am designed to deal with things in their most simplistic form. I process everything though my soul before it even enters my mind. Therefore I don't know how to deliver myself in an authentic way, good or bad, I will always express things exactly the way they are. I speak the ultimate truth. I have become an educated super empath and can see more than I ever thought I could or would.


I am here to make a difference and to talk about abuse to stop it so the victims can be free. So that there boundaries are strong so that they don't stick come to the lure is of a narcissist ever again. So then uneven try to get in there life in the understand what living a strife chaos drama free life is. How Indy beautiful it is. To surround yourself with the right people who lift you up never throw you down. I am in activist and my real name is Reva M Steenbergen. I live in Canada and I'm here for you because I love you that much.

ABOUT THE BOOK

Reva Steenbergen, survivor of narcissistic abuse has created a factual/ truth based perspective on the inner workings of a narcissist and the tremendous impact this has on their victims.


 It's intense, raw and revealing as we examine how a narcissist target's and plays with a person's feelings and emotions in a wicked, psychological game of manipulation and control.


The reader will uncover the truth about...


· Who is vulnerable to the advances of a narcissist and how a narcissist pursues their target.

· Empath versus narcissist, why the two attract.

· How narcissists provide the perfect allure to draw people in;

· What makes a narcissist so relentlessly cruelty.

· The mind, the method, the behavior, and the reasoning behind a narcissist's abuse.

· The reasoning behind why victims stay in an abusive relationship with a narcissist.

· explore the abusive technique used by narcissists, known as gaslighting.


Gaslighting involves the art of creating a lie and making it believable until it becomes embraced as the truth. It's a delusional reality which causes great emotional distress in the victim. This leaves the victim trying to prove something that does not exist when they attempt to defend lies.


Causing strife, chaos, drama, pain, suffering, agony and distress give narcissists a feeling of euphoria - delight. They lack empathy, remorse and guilt therefore enjoy bringing you emotional turmoil and then sit back, while feeding their sick, twisted, sadistic appetite for cruelty.






IN DEDICATION

This book is in dedication to and gives a voice to victims , survivors and for those that didn't make it out alive.


 

CHAPTER REVIEW


Predator on the Hunt

- How it all begins. Who the narcissist targets and why.


Empath Versus Narcissist 

-Why the narcissist targets the empath and why the empath is drawn like a moth to the flame


Inside the mind of a Narcissist

-Here we take a close look at Narcissistic Personality Disorder and all the other elements that go into the making of a narcissist. As well we begin to look at their distinct behavior patterns.


Psychopath Versus Sociopath

-We examine the differences between a psychopath and sociopath. From the calm, covert psychopath to the explosive, volatile sociopath.


Trick of the Trade

All those cruel, manipulative things the narcissist does..


- Idealize

- Devalue

- Projection

- Silent Treatment

- With-holding

- Abuse by proxy

- Smear distort campaigns 

- Reid interrogation method 

A Little Deeper Look


Stockholm Syndrome 

-The bonds that tie, or in the case trauma bond. Distinctive shifts between positive and negative reinforcement by the narcissist. The victim will seek comfort from the very  person (the narcissist) causing them the agony and distress.


Gaslighting

-In this chapter we dive deeper into the subject, opening it up to obtain a much clearer view. 


Gaslighting the final discard

-Once the narcissist has finished draining their victim of vital, natural, inherent supply, they are now ready to dispose of their victim in the most cruel ways. Here we explore the hidden dangers even after the abuse seems to have ended.


In the aftermath

-Victims cycle through so many feelings and especially painful disbelief, shock and confusion as they try to sort all the pieces out of what they just experienced.


Revealing and healing

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Halthy happy New You

THE BOOK IS OUT AND SAVING LIVES !!

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This book is tight, precise and straight to the bottom line on every page. There are 77 citations with a 100 page book, which power packs, validates and brings truth to all the falsehoods of a narcissist. You will uncover all the tricks and tactics they try so hard to hide, while gaining a full understanding of what it feels like to be victimized. A full-body read, yet manageable in only one sitting !!

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